Oh, I agree - I totally presume that most of the people in my town wouldn't have my best interest in mind (under the circumstances - as I appear on the surface, I'm sure they wouldn't care either way). There are a lot of stories about stuff happening in dorms, and I also know people personally who would not react in positive/neutral ways. I suppose the question is whether you extrapolate from the "few bad apples" to the rest of the community. I don't think that it should not rest on the shoulders of the marginalized to presume they will be treated well, if they have no indication that would be the case. Not that they should go out with knives bared either - just that I think giving the benefit of the doubt can be a little much to ask. You know what I mean?