Somebody did an amazing Criminal Minds vid which was about not so much women as victims but women as survivors, horrifically scarred but unbroken. That was pretty neat, since CM can certainly be accused of falling into the same loaded gender paradigm. Can't recall who, 'cause my mind is cheese, but there can't be that many.

As for male deaths on Supernatural, you'd probably almost immediately run into the parallel problem of POC getting killed...though I guess that's a whole 'nother issue.