Um, well, I'm sorry? You should tell me if what I'm saying about your point of view is offensive (as I don't find it to be so). I'm not saying you don't see society's hand. I guess I feel like in the past you have been much faster to look to personal responsibility than I (and I have in fact slid more toward personal responsibility because of your arguments in favor of it/against self-victimization). I don't really see that as anything bad, but maybe I'm wording things badly. In any case, I'm sorry if what I've been saying about your point of view has been that egregiously wrong/offensive. I'm not just saying it to say it, so either I'm saying it wrong (I'm probably saying it more simply/bluntly, in any case) or I've mistaken your opinions on many previous occasions. I suspect that I'm wording things badly.

Yeah, I don't know either, at this point. Probably that I think gendered insults matter more (because they are gendered).