If you say that you don't have a thing against women or the idea of women or anything, ok. I'm not going to tell you what you do or don't think.
All I can say is that "expecting everybody to be equally human beings" is not how you always come across (I mean in other conversations). I often feel, rightly or wrongly, that you expect everybody to be "a man," and that you are much more likely to dislike a woman (any woman) than a man (any man), because women are socialized to be weak and men are socialized to be strong. I remember particularly a conversation about Nietzsche that made me think this. And maybe that's because you can't relate to a lot of women, or because femininity is a position of inferiority, or both.
And in recent years I have started to understand your criticisms of femininity - I know there are things you may have said in college that I disagreed with then that I agree with now. So it's not that I "see and dislike" your opinion. It's just that I think I remain slightly more sensitive to words like "cunt" than you, and maybe even that we look at gendered insults differently (which I think this conversation has shown). And I feel like I know you're looking at it differently, so I try to compensate for what I feel is my perspective, so that you get where I'm coming from, because I know we're not coming from the same place, exactly.
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All I can say is that "expecting everybody to be equally human beings" is not how you always come across (I mean in other conversations). I often feel, rightly or wrongly, that you expect everybody to be "a man," and that you are much more likely to dislike a woman (any woman) than a man (any man), because women are socialized to be weak and men are socialized to be strong. I remember particularly a conversation about Nietzsche that made me think this. And maybe that's because you can't relate to a lot of women, or because femininity is a position of inferiority, or both.
And in recent years I have started to understand your criticisms of femininity - I know there are things you may have said in college that I disagreed with then that I agree with now. So it's not that I "see and dislike" your opinion. It's just that I think I remain slightly more sensitive to words like "cunt" than you, and maybe even that we look at gendered insults differently (which I think this conversation has shown). And I feel like I know you're looking at it differently, so I try to compensate for what I feel is my perspective, so that you get where I'm coming from, because I know we're not coming from the same place, exactly.