Yeah, I do the same thing...it's so hard to separate these things out.
I'm talking about people who get in relationships with 'desire' but not that sort of consuming physical passion, or whatever. I think the feeling of desire depends on what it is that's attractive about the person, yes, but "physical" is a bad gloss because something supposedly physical can be about charisma, or power, or objectification, etc. And I do think this relates to why men tend to 'know they're gay' sooner, or why women tend to be more ambivalent about sexuality. I mean, you rarely hear a guy doing what Manako does, for instance, and date and love a guy while maintaining that women are inherently more attractive and dicks are gross. Admittedly Manako has issues and she's an extreme example, but I've had plenty of relationships with guys (or girls, but I have fewer relationships with them) where there's some level of attraction but it's nothing like that. That's my super-short explanation. And maybe it's true that guys don't feel the particular sort of desire I'm talking about any more than women do, they have the 'use people as objects of desire' thing going on for them more, I don't know, but there is something going on there.
You...have strange attractions, man. Lol, I'm sorry, that's not meant as an insult at all, but whoah. To me, that sounds like the heroic type.
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Yeah, I do the same thing...it's so hard to separate these things out.
I'm talking about people who get in relationships with 'desire' but not that sort of consuming physical passion, or whatever. I think the feeling of desire depends on what it is that's attractive about the person, yes, but "physical" is a bad gloss because something supposedly physical can be about charisma, or power, or objectification, etc. And I do think this relates to why men tend to 'know they're gay' sooner, or why women tend to be more ambivalent about sexuality. I mean, you rarely hear a guy doing what Manako does, for instance, and date and love a guy while maintaining that women are inherently more attractive and dicks are gross. Admittedly Manako has issues and she's an extreme example, but I've had plenty of relationships with guys (or girls, but I have fewer relationships with them) where there's some level of attraction but it's nothing like that. That's my super-short explanation. And maybe it's true that guys don't feel the particular sort of desire I'm talking about any more than women do, they have the 'use people as objects of desire' thing going on for them more, I don't know, but there is something going on there.
You...have strange attractions, man. Lol, I'm sorry, that's not meant as an insult at all, but whoah. To me, that sounds like the heroic type.