i'm not saying that it holds true of all intellectuals, just that it takes a certain sort of insecurity that is often found among them (because what are intellectuals if not grown-up dorks?). and god, english majors are certainly the most pretentious of them, so maybe the 'writer' thing does make sense in a way.

i'm not sure it has to be unhealthy, which kind of troubles me. i mean, some people seem to be satisfied this way, with one wife who balances out all their insecurities in various ways (not just with looks), and it certainly doesn't just go in one direction, the guy is doing something for her too. and yet the intellectual relationship is lacking, seems more and more necessary to me as something that makes an equal relationship, or a relationship of any...substance.