That's why I explained it to you, so that we would both know what we're talking about. I think you mean much the same thing as unmarked when you talk about a hegemonic culture.

I dunno, you're just a person. You're Nadia. I don't give a shit how you're marked, and I'm sorry it's so important to you.

Yes, I suppose we all like to be comforted, and groups are comforting. It takes a lot of strength, arguably inhuman strength, to transcend them. It's like old-school Enlightenment. Or Christianity. Which have their roots in the same thing anyway.